I Can’t Afford to Work Part-time


I’m a wedding and event planner and I only work about 15 hours a week. It suits me well and I love it! However, I’m barely breaking even after the costs of childcare. My husband travels for work so 90% of the time I have to pay a nanny. Most of my events are on Saturdays with the rare Sunday wedding or Friday rehearsal. So, I’ve got Monday through Thursday to fill and I’d love to make a little more money. I’ve tried to find an office to help out at or a even a bar to tend. The problems are…

  • Most daycares dont take kids part time.
  • Most part-time jobs dont pay well.
  • Nannies are expensive.

I love my job so much that I’ll do it for free but one day I’d like to, you know, pay a bill or something. I’ve considered nannying or working at a daycare facility but I’ve never done that before and it would be strange to start that now. The only way I figure that I can work a second job would be an online or telecommuting job that I can do from home while Liam naps or after he goes to bed (i.e. NOT have to pay for childcare). Eventually I will take on more clients and probably wont need two jobs. Maybe I don’t even need a second job right now, maybe I do. I’m just trying to be content with where I’m at, soaking up the time I have with Liam, and pining for days where I can feel like I’m contributing to the household budget. 

 Questions for you, readers:

  • How do you balance the costs of childcare with your career? 
  • Have you considered a part-time job/part-time daycare scenario?
  • Do you work because you love it? Because you have to?


  • I’m right there with you! it’s a constant struggle over whether it is worth it to work part time and “advance my career” or stay home with my kids all the time and not pay child care.
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  • I hear you, I was barely bringing anything home paying childcare for two kids and working 30 hours per week (and it was a very good paying job). Childcare is so.freaking.expensive!
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  • Jennifer says:

    Hey, Lindsy,
    I have been on the un- and under-employed roller coaster for 2 years. In that time, I opened a speaking business. It’s tough to speak after a full-time job with young children at home :( I am exploring the possibility of PT work, but fear it will not pay the bills. Thankfully, my husband does not travel and is great with watching the kids in the evening. Best of luck to you!

  • Cherlyn says:

    I am a wedding & birth photographer in a really expensive part of California – the Bay area {but we love it here}! and the cost of childcare and living expenses is high! Luckily, my kids {I have two – ages 4.5 & 2.5} daycare does do part-time care for two days out of the week. If it wasn’t for that – I wouldn’t know how to handle anything. Especially coming from a 9-5 full time job at an office to full-time at home. Scheduling and having a great support system – like my husband and some friends I can count on is a HUGE help – especially when I am on call for my birth photography clients!

    In the beginning of my transition to full time photographer/at home mama – it was really hard and it is still a struggle considering my 9-5 job was the main source of income for our family as my husband is a high school Spanish teacher going to school for his master’s! Freelance work is a stressball – and I always freak out when inquiries stop but some how, I am, we are able to survive and have me accomplish my dreams…

  • mandy says:

    I understand! I work a software job 3 days a week and it’s pretty great, but the only reason I was able to do it is that I’d worked here 8 years before I had my kids and asked to switch to parttime. I’ve been doing part time for a little over a year now, and I’m the ONLY person who works part time in my division. I really wish there more part time jobs out there Even with a nice software job, 3 days a week doesn’t make me much money after paying for 3 days/week daycare for 2 kids. Good luck!

  • I have faced this same struggle!
    My husband and I were working full-time and we were paying for the daycare as well…it was very expensive. In January I decided to take a part-tiem position with my company. It is a sacrifice because I work nights now…and have decided (for now) to keep my daughter home with me. We are saving a big chunk of change…but it is hard to be a part-time worker, a stay at home mom, and a full-time student. THE STRUGGLE IS REAL. My hubby and I are now trying to figure out how to do it with me staying home full-time. Is there a way that you can keep the kiddos home Monday-Thursday?

    • Lindsy says:

      Wow! you are SUPER WOMAN! Very cool that you’re able to do it all now. Currently I have no childcare. Just random nannies, sitters or family members to watch my son during my random shifts. It’s a scheduling nightmare!
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      • LOL. “Do it All”? I really don’t. There are days that I don’t cook. There are days that my daughter watches a little bit more on Netflix than she should. There are also days that I just nap. I am just giving myself permission to be imperfect…and to also not have it all together. I am married, and my daughter is 3. They are my priorities. :-)

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