I am often asked how I started working from home as a writer, because many of us that blog have that goal in mind. The dream of doing what you love, from home, and being paid for it. I know every day how very blessed I am, and even though things can get crazy, I always keep that in mind. I have wonderful editors and co-workers, I love what I do, and it challenges me so often.
I have a lot of people who assume when we lost the boys this spring, then everything blew up and I got hired and was able to work from home.
But in fact, it happened before that. I was hired for Military Family almost out of nowhere in April, getting an email saying they were looking for new bloggers and was I interested?
Then an opening came up for Babble, and I applied. I pitched them about being pregnant with the twins and my blog in general, and was hired.
Then a month later, it all fell apart. My twins were born at 20 weeks, didn’t survive, I quit my writing gigs while laying in the hospital that week, and part of me had no idea if I’d ever want to write again.
When I came home, I took May to consider what I wanted to do. Each of those jobs I’d considered temporary – having 3 under 3 would leave me with little time to do much writing professionally. But suddenly I had a very independent 3 year old and my passion to write waiting. And so I decided that I would try to get back a small part of what the huge loss had taken away. I started to write again, throwing my whole self into it. I asked to go back to Babble and Military Family, then was hired on at Oreck, and kept writing with a few other places I loved, and of course at LMW.
Before this year, I’d started to apply for anything and everything online that offered writing gigs. Paid and unpaid. So when the time came to apply for say, Babble, I had things I could refer them to outside my blog.
I never had a goal or desire of writing for magazines or a book. Maybe one day, but for now I’m really happy with what I do. So I don’t pitch these outlets. I focus my attention on online media and sites. I ask around, when I see someone who writes for an amazing company, I ask them how they got the job. Sometimes having a recommendation from someone helps land a gig.
Many, many times I am turned down. I submit things that aren’t published. I pitch companies I never hear from. I’ve written for places that aren’t a great fit and I know it a few weeks in. All of these, hard as they are to go through, help me to hone and polish my next letter, pitch, and build up questions to ask before saying “Yes!”
I love being a mom. Bella is my priority. But one day she’ll grow up and have a life of her own, meaning I’d like one in the meantime. Being a mother isn’t the soul defining part that my creative side finds fulfillment in – writing is. I work really hard at being able to be at home, be a good mom, and do what I love. There isn’t a day that goes by that I am not blown away by where writing and blogging has taken me so far. From actual places to people that have changed my life. It’s an amazing thing to be a part of.